banned for paying her would be illegal... hmm, I wonder if that changes if you're married. Hmmm....
Anyway, I'm not living that right now and I've had exes that liked porn, so whatever floats yer boat.
@Scoutdog: I like this quote:
"Sure as I know anything, I know this - they will try again. Maybe on another world, maybe on this very ground swept clean. A year from now, ten? They'll swing back to the belief that they can make people... better. And I do not hold to that." ~ Captain Malcolm Reynolds, Serenity
You can propose it to anyone, but if people, as individuals and as a whole, are not willing to better themselves, then that's all there is to it, and no one should have any say otherwise. Feel free to go about your business, but always have that in the back of your mind.